Congratulations sweetie! Of all the girls that the bride has met in her lifetime to date, you stand out above the rest. She has had many sleepless nights making this big decision. She knows that who she picks will make some happy and others upset.

The title of bridesmaid comes with responsibility and cost. If you don’t have the time or money to be a part of a wedding party, there’s nothing wrong with turning the bride down and just coming as a guest. Many friendships have suffered because a friend was too scared to say, “Sorry, I love you but I can’t.”

The bill for being a BMs is between $200.00 to $500.00+. The totals will all depend on formality of the wedding, cultural background, size of wedding, your dress and your budget.

The bride and her Maid of Honour will look to you for help many times during the planning stages and on the wedding day. So, what do you have to do?


  • Help the bride plan her wedding.
  • Listen to her plans with a smile on your face.
  • Make time for group dress shopping trips and fittings.
  • Pay for your bridesmaid’s dress, even if you hate it. You can let your feelings be known but the bride has the final call on what you wear.
  • Help addresses and assemble wedding and shower invitations.
  • Help wrap and tag guest favours and Bombonniere.
  • Help the Maid of Honour plan & pay for a shower or stagette.
  • Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
  • Help decorate ceremony and reception locations if necessary
  • Stand in the receiving (optional)
  • Sit at the head table
  • Have a dance with the groomsmen
  • Offer to help the Maid of Honour when needed.
  • Help load gifts into car.
  • Help with clean-up at the end of the night (for all the different events)

Your speech will consist of thanking the bride for the honour of being chosen to be apart of her wedding party, a couple of stories about either the bride or the groom depending on who you’re closest to. Keep it short and sweet, around 2 minutes. You can say a poem, sing a song or toast the bride or the couple’s future. For more ideas look at the maid of honours speech and things not to do.

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